Active listening and intimacy
Most of us think we’re better listeners than we actually are. I certainly did. For…
Consent as an ongoing conversation
Why we get it so wrong Most of us grew up with this really binary…
Sexual anxiety and performance
Sexual anxiety affects far more people than most realise. I know this because I’ve experienced…
My journey with masculinity
I spent years cultivating interests that felt appropriately masculine. Single malt whiskeys I couldn’t really…
Watching with compersion
There’s something profound about witnessing your partner fully in their element, radiating joy, sensuality and…
Finding your voice: a guide to authentic communication and boundary setting
Have you ever walked away from an intimate encounter feeling like something was off, but…
No straight answers: my experience with contextual same sex attraction
I have been primarily attracted to women for my whole adult life, and have historically…
Building safety for those who apologise for their bodies
Something hits me square in the chest each time: seeing someone I care about at war with their own reflection. Whether they’re switching off lights to hide in shadows, apologising…